Yeah - I ain't amused!!
I go to a university in
a not-so culturally diverse area. Which isn't a massive issue to me.
It's like a new adventure, where I go from the multi-cultured London,
where there were other black people around me. Now, it's quite
exciting meeting another black person on the street. Sometimes we
chat, other times we smile, acknowledging that we are very scarce
having a secret chuckle about it. It's a strange phenomenon I've
found, I'm not sure how to explain it. My Mum calls it 'fictive
kinship', a sense of brotherhood and community with this stranger.
Going to a university
in a not-so culturally diverse area has its downs, however. The
'casual racism' which I sometimes don't find all the casual. Finding
people don't understand why I don't like the rain because it gets my
hair wet. Not being able to find make-up in my shade! The struggle
can sometimes be immense.
The worse experience,
however, occurred today, and must be document and the word spread
that this is NOT OKAY!! I was waiting in Argos, ready to buy an
Ottoman, after having a really good day of shopping. In the cue, a
white man, who had been staring at my head, then asked “Can I Touch
Your Hair?”
I turned to him,
probably an expression of utter shock written across my face. I
didn't know if he was being serious or not – but he was. He asked
again, and I shock my head at him. There was no maybe in this
situation. “No. You cannot touch my hair.”
“But it's so cool!”
He insisted, raising his hand whilst I took a step back, further
shock hitting me.
“No.” I said again.
Didn't he get the message?! He had a woman friend/girlfriend sniggering
next to him. Were they high, mental, had they never seen dreadlocks
before? I was angry and upset. I wasn't an object that could be
touched and gaped and awed it. Sure, I don't mind compliments to my
hair. I compliment other people's hair if I find it fascinating or
beautiful. I may ask questions about it, but never, no matter what
race, gender, culture, have I asked a stranger if I could touch their
hair!!! It was mortifying and I almost wanted to cry, even after he
insisted I touch his hair in return.
I glared and made sure
my back wasn't turned before paying for my goods and leaving, still
in shock as I called my Mum and told her of this experience. It was a
first, but it may not be the last. Here's hoping, that if there is
next a next time, that I'll have the guts to stand up for myself
further, and explain why it's not okay to ask strangers, to touch
their hair. Maybe talk to me a little, exchange information, but
don't you dare treat me like a walking petting zoo. Ever.
Peace Out,
Thulani x
I met this Alpaca once at a petting zoo to de-stress during exams. He has so much sass.
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